Anti Child Abuse

It is now or never that education on child abuse should become even a mandatory subject that schools, caregivers and even parents have to learn along with children from a small age.

Too many child abusers are getting away with serious offenses and live in their comfort zone, even having excuses and blaming the child as to be the one with a problem, thus trying to qualify their horrendous deeds.

Nope. An adult should know better - that their maltreatment and abuse of a child is the problem and they have to take responsibility.

This education should have as goal especially to create awareness and to develop a child's confidence to speak when they feel threatened and unhappy about something. It can be that which is against themselves as well as anything happening to another kid they know.

Adult people really also need to get more involved - see when something spooks a child for there will be a valid reason. Is your child scared or jumpy about something that you don’t understand? Reluctant to do specific things, change of behaviour? Speak to your child, let your child feel safe to talk to you.

Even the kids that are not targeted might know what is going on but they're too scared to tell and therefore have to live with this horror story going on in real life. The abuser will target one child - yet – some kids that are favoured actually do suffer immensely and most will also develop learning and social problems.

I've seen this happening a few times, the first time in my very young childhood days I experienced a mother treating her little girl very badly, and her son was everything to her. The poor elder brother suffered far more because he felt responsible to protect his little sister but had no power against the mother’s manipulation to do so.

This little boy would take care of his little sister in all other ways possible, protecting her and comforting her when she was crying with pain after being beaten up. He knew the truth and knew that it was wrong and that his little sister didn't deserve the punishment.

But the poor brother developed immense hang ups, he never developed a strong attitude where he could actually take a stand for what was right or wrong. He remained wary and scared for the rest of his life, right into adulthood. And, since he was the mother’s favourite, she was kind to him and in a way could manipulate him, lie to him and misguided him terribly. He never became like her, but he became reckless in a way which sadly caused his death.

Further on, I've also even seen how a teacher would be picking on one child and the other kids became petrified and wouldn't have success in her classes. Many kids failed the year they were with her.

This teacher was wicked. I could never understand why she’d leash out at a child that could not cope with a lesson, rather than helping the child. We had sewing lessons from her. One day during class she grabbed a kid and flung her over her desk.

That day I knew it is a teacher that deserves no respect. Ever since I’d only pretended I’m - sewing. I hated her for what she did to the other girl. (Though it never stopped me from becoming a daft hand in sewing, I love designing my own clothes and make it.) That daft teacher could not kill my spirit, but she killed my respect for her.

Well, those were lessons in a lesson. Some adults have no responsibility to care for kids. I learned it early and it helped me to cope during my later years.

 

Then, when I became a mom, I also noticed with my own child how she couldn't stand teachers who favoured her but they would be terribly nasty to another child - I am thankful that I could teach my kid proper values and she would take her stand against what is wrong. People can be educated in these things. Even small children.

It is a horror in society nowadays where more and more adult folks cannot cope with simple things and rather take it out on children. Such people should never work with kids, probably not even with other people. But why did they choose such a career? Goodness knows, maybe it was the only option but then they should have known better than to become child abusers.

Regardless it being the only option, good values have to be maintained. When you work with kids, you have to be an impeccable example to help raising an impeccable future adult. You will get old, will need those whom you helped to raise.

Alas, some don’t see it this way. They live for today to take revenge on an innocent child.

Even little babies are abused in a crèche, these evil people exist all over the world.

Educating other kids in this regard is wise. Let kids feel free to report when something is not right, even if it is not against them. No child deserves to feel that she is being intimidated. Right is right, wrong is wrong. SPEAK child, speak when you see something is not right.

The only answer I can think of that would solve a major if not the whole problem of this kind of situation, is when education about child abuse can become a mandatory subject where kids, care givers, educators and parents are ‘forced’ to take part in, earn a certificate of competence as proof that they can actually act to the benefit of that child.

My child, I know your years, I’ve been there.

I’ve seen, I’ve lived. I know the life of a child because I was a child before.

Real Case Study Part I : The Executive

(Let's call this one X)
These sessions are to expose the false characters / pretenders
Main things about the typical Executive

Danger:
Danger level of this type can vary depending on material gain and risk at loosing either or both the material and social image.

Weakness:
Fears truth and a bad public/social image
Personality: Multiple - X has a personality for each target and social circles -  'a face for everything'

Social:
Analyzing the complexes of this character, one finds that the demands of a hidden agenda stops X to develop social  skills. What X therefore portrays in public will be any of the multiple personalities to suit the event. NOTE: When pressure gets too strong, X will revert to the ugly true self.

Jealousy:
X is jealous of honest successful people. (But X likes to be seen in their company to create an image as of also being honest & successful)
note: This type of jealousy is not a weakness for X.

Status:
X endeavors constantly to have a high profile in society.
This type never has close friends since those who get to know this character, do not like the type.
X would have 'partners in crime' but they never become close friends. They would be backstabbing each other when pressure gets strong.

Lies:
X lies constantly, and is a master at altering the lie to sound like the truth. Any form of statement/instruction/action from this one must be investigated first.

Cruelty:
X has no regard for any emotional state of the victim and would rather use it as an advantage.

Other:
This type will never become society leaders.
This type will try to influence and/or manipulate leaders or other authorities.
This type will always manipulate situations in order to get a 'hold' on their victims. This is as an 'investment' for this type.

(important reasoning here, always watch what you say in their presence, never make any commitment to them of whatever kind. Remember when X puts pressure on you for a commitment, to regard it as manipulation and/or intimidation)

Characteristics:

Talks very easy and a lot (motivation - to lead the listener's mind away from the actuality)

Flaunt: Well dressed and other fancy exhibitions (motivation - to create image of being gallant/smart -  charming image)

Displays knowledge outside victim's field (motivation - to create image of 'knows all' in order for the victim not to question too much, believing X does the right thing)

Displays knowledge inside the victim's field (X always studies his victim in order to apply an image which makes the victim feel that X 'sides' with him or her)

Always the first to greet with great friendliness (motivation - to win the victim over. note X will usually be friendly to anybody within hearing shot and visuality of his victim and vice verse in order to win 'everybody' over)

Backslapping - X will always try to make buddies with people where necessary (motivation - to gain information and 'guidelines' for future victims)


remember, these are all a
Superficial Image: A combined form of backslapping and flaunting, X will always try to be seen as 'important' by mingling with the important to add to status (motivation - smokescreen, creating awe, all in order to further hide the conniving character)

Purpose of exhibiting these characteristics is always to get general public and eventually the victim's confidence and trust.

(never ignore words you hear from others regarding X, such as 'bullshitter' 'chancer' 'taking you for a ride', womanizer in the event X being male, etc, since where there is a little bit of smoke you'll certainly find a fire)

(Behind the public scenes into his private territory, X is most of the time a bad person/companion/partner since all the 'make-up' and energy has been used up in public. Added to this, X will most probably even have a variety of love affairs to 'maintain' an audience of  'worshippers' and subjects. They feel important by X's attention and remain as puppets.)

HOW X WORKS
 
Victims will be approached/targeted according to their personalities, views and lifestyles of which this perpetrator has made a bit of a study. Once X knows a bit more, X will zoom in and become a person with the same views as the victim. Then the smooth talking begins.

The victim will soon feel that he or she has now made a friend who understands them and have the same ideas. Quite soon the victim will completely trust X.

This victim now became an investment for X.

Should there be more for the future with this victim, X will continue even further:

The conniving begins. X will gently guide the victim away from his or her original trusted ways which will make the victim think that X is taking his or her interests at heart. This will even include gifts and other seemingly 'care about you' things which X would give, do, and/or initiate. X will create a great public image of 'caring' about his victim. This is motivated by the fact that the victim and others would of course talk 'nice' about X, which obviously adds to the victim being convinced that X is honest and kind.

X will continue doing this the charming way, until advanced stages where X can even lie to the victim to whom by then the whole actuality and truth is blurred. X will eventually push over borders to total misrepresentation while the victim has no idea of what goes on. At this stage X will be in control of the victim's interests.

This victim is now also an investment for X.

This system will continue, probably into generations if X could live as long.

Notes on 'future' victims targeted by X

Where a victim has become a 'future' investment of having shared anything with X and X can take advantage of it, X will follow the same principles as in the beginning of 'becoming' a person the victim can trust.
 
Once X obtained everything needed to have a 'hold' on the victim, the victim will suddenly find him or herself in an awkward situation of knowing something is wrong somewhere but since it is all parallel with the truth, the victim cannot see where the problem is. The victim knows X did him or her wrong but feel they have no proof against X.

X now goes for the final attack by suggesting what 'will be the best outcome' in some form of gain for the victim in order for the victim to feel he or she has not lost completely. In most cases the victim will believe X all over again as taking interests to heart, feel thankful and accept what X offers.

Another form of attack:
At some occasions, where a victim has done something slightly wrong, yet within legal parameters, X will confuse and blur the true situation, making the victim think that he or she did terribly wrong. Once this grip is reached, X will manipulate the victim to make some form of commitment. Once the victim has made a commitment, it cannot be undone as easily.

However, it is when the victim feels something is wrong that he or she should object and investigate or call in help to investigate.

Remember, there are laws and since X is the perpetrator, the victim will be on the right side of the Law.

TIP: When you feel something is wrong somewhere, play it along a little while but don't make any commitments. Soon enough you will find yourself with sufficient proof to approach a special Crime Unit that deal with issues such as these.

Remember that X will always target vulnerable victims due to the fact that this puny character does not have a strong personality and has no ownership of any Alpha characteristics. A cheater is a cheater, they are the runts of society.

Don't be intimidated by them.

This type is for now still one of my greater and most interesting studies. More information might arise on how they work.

A most recent personal experience has brought me in direct contact with one. This one became quite elusive but hopefully sooner than later will be brought to reprimand. There might be more victims and they need to know whats going on.

This personal experience has been presented to legal authorities will soon be published.

Doing wrong - evil motivations

Doing wrong ... Enough is enough

too much talking, too many GREY areas. I have sharpened my pencil

Incompetence is an easy word and usually the decent word to describe a persons wrong doings. The reasons why someone can do the wrong thing is either by a lack of knowledge or education, ignorance or on the heavier side, the person is not legally qualified.

However, when all decent options in describing the incompetent  actions become depleted, the uglier options must be looked at.

Behind all actions there are motivation and purpose.

Incompetent actions where the person is educated, legally qualified, even experienced for the specific task would of course have a motivation and/or purpose (agenda) as to WHY the person is executing a task in an incompetent way. Such 'agendas' would be well concealed, they will follow all laws absolutely parallel BUT closer studies will reveal it as being outside  legal parameters.

Some are very good at doing it, conning others into believing what they say is 'so and so and correct'. Most of us have encountered at least one such person in our lives.

For the sake of all the 'soft targets' such as older people, naive people, people who do not see beyond another's charm and flattering, and are being 'bamboozled' by those sharks:


Over time I shall introduce profiles from actual case studies and personal experiences. I shall further expand on particular experiences which are of utmost importance for the general society to learn about.

Enough is enough. I've seen enough, I've experienced enough. I do not wish for others who might not have the necessary knowledge nor have the emotional strength, to be bamboozled by the sharks.

I am sharpening my pencil.  Some who know me will find themselves at the wrong end of it. Most who know me will be protected and comforted by it.